Saturday, November 02, 2002 :::

so...apparently, my little get-together that i have planned for next weekend has been advertised (in some small amount, at least) as a party in which drinking will be practiced. although i haven't made a point of stating whether or not there will be any drinking permitted, those who have been invited know me pretty damn well - at least, i think they do. that said, it should be known that there's a big part of me that's against drinking. hopefully, whoever's reading this feels slightly redundant/annoyed in doing so because he/she already knows what i'm saying and is tired of me stating it. regardless, it is apparent that i need to make a point here. the reason i have my friends come up here to visit is NOT TO DRINK. in NO WAY is that even partially a reason, and if someone feels like it is, then he/she needs to think again. i'm sorry for ever supporting events that made drinking become associated with the idea of a get-together at my place - obviously, that was never the intention - in fact, it was exactly what i didn't want to happen. to start, drew doesn't drink. thus, drew is uncomfortable with people getting drunk in our apartment. therefore, it should be understood that even if i was cool with drinking going on, drew isn't, and this is drew's apartment as well as mine, and so, people should take that into account when coming to this apartment. secondly, i'm still unsure about how i feel about drinking, given the past experiences that i've been a part of. it would be one thing if everyone knew and abided by his or her limit, but sadly, this hasn't been the case in the past. i am definitely not cool with drinking for the sake of getting drunk. buzzed is one thing - drunk is another. so...there's that... - and technically, that should be enough. i do not trust alcohol amongst my friends (not all of you, but some), and therefore, i do not want it in my apartment. i realize that coming up here feels like a getaway where anything goes or whatever, and that's fine, but this is my home, and if i'm not cool with something going on, it sure as hell isn't going to happen here. I've said these words before, and they were supposedly understood by my friends, but were later betrayed.

i wish there was a way that i could be completely assured of no one getting drunk, as that's my main problem with the whole drinking thing, but obviously, that's an impossibility, and i know that everyone doesn't feel the same way as i do about drinking, so i don't want to force anything on anyone. so...the best way to work this out is just to remove alcohol from the equation.

This whole thing has hurt me, but woken me up a bit, as well. Maybe it seems trivial to whoever's reading this, but it's not to me. My reasoning for getting my friends together is to enjoy each other's company. if one becomes drunk, he/she is not himself, and won't even remember whatever happened once the next day commences. So where's the logic in that?

if you want to get drunk, stay home. if you want to make new memories with old friends, you're more than welcome to come.

::: posted by AJBrotz at 4:15 AM

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